February 8, 2013
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An Old Fashioned Wife.
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~ clarita
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~ clarita
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Yes! Yes! Yes!
I was actually thinking the other day that I have been slacking off in the “welcome home” department, so this a wonderful encouragement and reminder to make it fun to come home to me. Last night I heard him pull into the driveway and was able to have supper sitting on the table, waiting for him. He commented positively about it several times…I’m thinking I should try to do that a bit more often 
Thankfully, he doesn’t mind if it’s not always that way! 
Blessings to you in your marriage & your continued desire to please your husband and better your marriage!
wonderful words of advice!!
God’s been convicting me of this very thing lately, so perfect timing to read!!
“what’s it like to come home to me?”
wow. sobering.
thanks for being bold to share what many consider “old fashioned” truth!!
we need to hear it MORE.
and adorable pics. i’m going to check your friend’s site out.
love you girl.
happy week ending!
loved this post! absolutely loved it
it’s only been 2.5 yrs and 1 kiddo for me, and i already feel like i’ve lost some of my motivation to make our home (and me) a lovely thing to come home to. thank you so much for the encouragement and inspiration!
I like the way you wrote about this. Because it is about an attitude of servanthood more than anything. I really get where you are coming from on this.
And…I loved your friend’s pictures. The one with the high heels on in the kitchen especially! I think my kids would be staring if I was cooking dinner looking like that!
But hey, I bet my man wouldn’t mind when he comes home!
I needed this today… The funny thing is my husband usually gets home before me and has the dish washer unloaded and loaded again. At times I am on the receiving end of this and it DOES make coming home something to look forward to.
Proverbs 31 always brings me to my knees. “She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family and portions for her female servants.” One I need to work on… mornings are not my thing, and happen to be a ‘thing’ of my husband.
Janelle’s such a great model in these pictures! =)
and, i like your words. so, so easy to get into a ‘rut’ when you’re raising kids, and before you know it, you’ve forgotten how to be a good….anything, let alone wife!;)
there’s days when i don’t feel like i’m much to come home to and yet! i’m so very glad that i have one that comes home to me, no matter what state i’m in!
good reminders!!
♥
loved this- so much TRUTH. putting the other person’s needs above your own and loving them through thick and thin no matter what– is one of the keys to happiness in marriage, i think…
Thanks for the reminder, Clarita! I know it means so much to him to come home to a tidy house, but that can be hard to accomplish during that most hectic hour of the day. If I can just remember to work ahead . . . I loved the pictures too. This post definately inspires me!
That woman is SO pretty.
This is funny, it reminded me of a conversation Steven and I had about a week or so ago. You know he’s been not working for the last little while, right? Well I came home (let’s just say he doesn’t have happy homemaker tendencies about cleanliness or meal preparation, lol) and he starts telling me about all the stuff that got broke that day. There were like 3 things! And then how Alex got in trouble after school about x, and then Thomas did y and lost computer. ANd I was overwhelmed and tired and exasperated and I said, “DId anything GOOD happen today?!” and he replied, “Oh, I guess you probably don’t want bombarded will all that crap when you first walk in, do you? (I still had my coat on and was putting up my purse) It was odd to be on the other side of it. It really IS overwhelming to walk into total pandemonium. As someone who walks into it regularly after a long day of work, I can honestly say Man or Woman, it makes a body grumpy!
The good news, is that something Good HAD happened that day. We got room numbers. That’s right, the boys had given all of our bedrooms room numbers like hotels and taped them to the doors. I’m in 208 if you’re looking for me.
Now that i’m married i realize what a great example my mom was to me in ways like this, as a kid i didn’t really get it but she would often have us prepare for his arrival and always met him at the door with a kiss. (bleh) haha I love thinking about it now! The challenge i’ve had when i do make the “extra” effort is to not have expectations for what his reaction is going to be. Always a work in progress.. thanks for the delightful encouragement! It’s really so fun being an old-fashioned housewife!
such an excellent post. i love truth. it can hug. encourage. and kick my pants with an oh yeah. i forget sometimes. THAT IS who i want to be.
helpmeJesus. and your friend and her photography are wow. awesome.
Amen! We put soooooo much time and care into the babies when they come along and that’s wonderful and important, but there is something so satisfying in taking care of your man. I truly believe that it is because when we marry, we become one flesh—and taking care of him is taking care of me at the same time!
This is such a good reminder. With four children I am finding this more and more challenging. Especially the coming home to a tidy house I usually try to watch the clock and say, “Ok guys daddy’s going to be home soon let’s clean up the house.” But it doesn’t always happen that way. And why is it the hour or two before supper time are my most intense with children crying and fighting really and wanting mommy’s attention. Really I got to find a way to change that time of day. Love the pics! Great post! Now what am I going to cook for dinner tonight…
Amen to all of the above! Excellent post!
Almost 17 years in, it doesn’t matter how my day went, if I walk in, not to a whole clean house, but just to a clean front room and a, “Daddy’s home!” or a hug from my wife (That kind of hug where I can tell she’s letting the stress out and she knows she’ll be able to cope now that there are two of us.), or both, my time at home has started off well and the tone for the rest of the day is set. Not saying what’s right or wrong, or what a woman’s place is, just spelling out the facts of how things happen. We are in this thing for the long haul and 50/50 just doesn’t cut it. My opinion on the matter is, “When you have a little extra, give a little extra, and when she has nothing left to give, you had better find some and step in, because when it’s your turn at bat you’re up and the whole team pays for the results of your at-bat.” We like to think we know better than the older generation, but we’d sometimes be wise to at least give their wisdom a try.
I love it! Every bit. Janelle’s pictures too, which I have often admired over there in her writing corner.
The part about “what is it like to come home to me” and the thing about “marriages having a better success rate back then” are really hitting home for me. It’s one reason we love Created to Be His Helpmeet, right? It will continue to have it’s haters, but the truth still stands . . . and works. The attitude of serving and loving, even at a {gasp} sacrifice to myself is rather Christ-like in nature. Anyway, thanks for the reminders and honesty and for all of the loveliness. Off now to tidy up the place and see if I can scrounge up a breath mint or two. 
don’t have anything else profound to add, you said it well.
I do love the pics, and had to go drool over her blog for awhile. Always love a good new blog to follow
My goal for homemaking is that our home will be a retreat for my husband and the kids. A place of comforts, memories, and refuge. Thanks for some extra inspiration!
These sentiments are old fashioned but very nice and nicely put.
somehow lost my comment…but I love this !
Such a refreshing reminder from a sister who inspires me to do this well. You’re wonderful and I want to be a wife like you. Love love love…
dude. this makes me want to get married.
like now.
Such a great post! Great reminders. You are such a sweet wife!
I remember when Jeff and I were first married I made his lunch everyday…all the guys at work used to laugh and say it won’t last.
Well, it DID last…until this past winter. I became very lazy about getting up once Jeff started leaving at 4:30am.
It’s so dark and cold in what feels like the middle of the night and my lunch making has become very sporadic.
But if he can get up to go to work for our family, I should be able to get up with him and make him a lunch!!! Right?!?!
Your post was inspiring to read.
Happy Weekend to you.
XxOo
Oh…I LOVE the pictures, and am looking forward to checking out her blog. =)
always, always good to be reminded of this! and in such a fun post!!
i came here a few days ago …. first gasping at the size of your hudson boy, wowzers he’s grown!!! and then all your other lovely words and pictures & then realized your kitchen wasn’t a magazine but actually your kitchen : )
there is such a peace & clam & beauty here.
anyway somehow ; ) i never got to leave any comments.
i’ve read this quote before. so good.
and the part about coming home to me … ahhgghh – that’s convicting!! i’m reminding every so often of being excited to see him when i watch the kids run out with ‘dads home!!’ shouts & back doors slamming. i should beat them out next time : )
good words, thanks.
You reminded me so much of a movie called the stepfords wife.. love your blog! So inspiring!
@aSeriesofFortunateEvents -
lol…yes I couldn’t agree more! Man or women as there are many working women today.
And in our home because we both work dinner is equally on both of us to prepare/plan.
Sweet post but in today’s world many women including myself have to/choose to work outside the home. Dinner plans are on the hubby just as much as the women
Everything you posted still applies but sometimes the roles are not so defined.
i love this.
thank you, clarita!
@brokenmiracle - It seems that when the kiddos start coming that the challenge starts!
It takes a lot more effort, right? You and me both!
@appalolly - I know, I LOVE those heels in the kitchen too! Janelle is such a fabulous dresser, even apart from her vintage photo shoot, that I could see her doing this on a normal day!
@Hope - Ouch. Mornings are not my thing either!! And so neat that you’re on the receiving end of this in a happy way!
@foreveranoatneygirl_n2Hisown - Yes, so true… Good men we have, who love us even when we aren’t at our best! That’s the real marriage, right?
@baileyandme - ”putting the other person’s needs above your own and loving them through thick and thin no matter what– is one of the keys to happiness in marriage, i think…” so true, and it could be said of both husband and wife. i am so inspired by YOUR marriage.
@aSeriesofFortunateEvents - Room 208, I’ll remember that.
And you have good perspective – there are so many women who work as well and come home at the same time as their husband or after them… and it’s the restful, happy atmosphere that matters more than anything, right!
@Amy - Yes, those expectations can get me too… A work in progress here too!
I am so inspired by YOU! ♥
@down_onthefarm - ”truth can hug, encourage, and kick my pants…” yep. me too!
this post is as much to keep me accountable as anything! 
@lightnindan - 50/50 doesn’t cut it… you are so right. it is a continual giving on BOTH sides, without keeping track of who is giving the most.
i really like what you had to say.
@Elizabethmarie_1 - boy, talking about lunches…. i didn’t pack my husband’s this morning!! it’s those little things that can mean so much that sometimes are the hardest things to do! good reminder for me. xoxo
@xxMissforbiddenfruitxx - thanks so much for stopping by!
@Cluesy - you’re so right. in today’s world this list from the 1950′s wouldn’t apply in nearly every family. i guess it’s more the heart of serving and blessing each other, right? than the actual literal following of the “good wife” steps.
I need to think about what it is like to come home to me! The thoughts and the pictures are amazing! Thank you!
This is FANTASTIC!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I don’t even know what to say except that I was nodding my head yes all the way through! Love to you!
this was really good, clarita!! thank you!!
–But I do keep thinking, “What’s it like coming home to ME?”– So thought provoking and what a great post right before Valentine’s Day. The attitude of servant hood is almost long lost in our “Me and I deserve” society. Fun pictures!
I read this in a rush the other day, and kept wanting to come back to comment. I don’t have anything to add, but I really did love this post! My mom was a really good example of this to me, and I want to be like her. Taking time to acknowledge each other is so important! I think we set a good example of respect to our children by it. Acknowledging people when we see them is an area I’m still working on in the boys, but it’s so important to me. I often notice a child/young teenager/youth who can look an adult in the eyes whether it’s just in greeting or conversation. It’s not seen much anymore! Wait, wait–I thought I had nothing to add! (: Again, really good post!
My “problem” is, we’re at home together almost every moment of every day and have been for 5 years. I do make sure that I workout regularly and wear the clothes I know he likes on me; jeans that fit, brighter colored well-fitting tops, nice undies, hair fixed and just enough makeup to open up my eyes. He’d actually prefer the lovely birthday suit but never tells me it’s lovely or anything. I think we’ve gotten bored from so much togetherness. I do think about What is it Like, Being With ME? In his favorite sense, I know he LOVES being with me, even though the words are never there. Other than that….I guess if he really didn’t like me or the way I keep the house, he’d be miserable. And I don’t see him as being miserable. I loved my Dick and Jane books that we read at school when I was little. Many years later, I bought a few for my kids (they were really for me). I used to think I’d actually grow up and look like either their mom, or Barbie or June Cleaver or Mrs. Brady. Boy, I was waaaayyyy off the mark. ( 8 I have a friend here who does photography and her business name is also In His Image!
@Richgem - being home together all the time would definitely be different! and much of this wouldn’t even work or apply. but regardless of whether you look like Mother in the Dick and Jane books, Barbie, June Cleaver, Mrs. Brady or not – i know you must be a delight to be around! being together all the time would create challenges to keep things fresh and exciting… and yet in some ways it sounds really comfortable, like your favorite coffee mug (poor illustration) or favorite shirt (also lame) but like something you love SO much just because it’s so familiar. see, i have to much to learn from you, because some day it will most likely be ME in your shoes!